Song of the Day #2,153: ‘Not About to Lose’ – Ron Sexsmith

sexsmith_retrieverThe internet is funny.

On the YouTube clip of today’s Random Weekend SOTD, posted by some kind soul in September of 2009, a flame war broke out between somebody comparing Ron Sexsmith to Paul McCartney and a McCartney detractor.

It was a short battle, only a few posts long though it spanned a month. The Sexsmith fan accused his opponent of lacking “couth,” a nice touch.

The McCartney-basher replied to the attack with a statement I find interesting: “People who get defensive and personally attack others because you criticized one of their favorite musical artists are merely revealing their personal insecurities to the world.”

A provocative suggestion. Do we passionately defend our favorites in part because we fear we may not be “right” in liking them so much? Are we trying to prove the point to ourselves as much as to our adversary?


If I were to listen to my doubts
I’d think my time was running out
But I’m old enough to do it
And young enough to do it again

I’m not about to lose
I’m not about to lose
This feeling that I’ve found

If I were to listen to the sound
Of that little voice, I might turn back now
But I won’t be taking fear’s advice
Not after all I’ve sacrificed

I’m not about to lose
I’m not about to lose
This feeling that I’ve found

Though my heart is overcome at times
Still it knows
Where it’s coming from
And where it must go

Just like an oak I’ll take my stand
But like a willow I can bend

I’m not about to lose
I’m not about to lose
This feeling that I’ve found

3 thoughts on “Song of the Day #2,153: ‘Not About to Lose’ – Ron Sexsmith

  1. Dana says:

    A provocative suggestion indeed. In fact, whenever I get into a “flame war” with Mark and his family on FB over political issues, my family questions why I bother to engage in the debate. I don’t think I am doing so out of fear that I might be wrong, but I suppose I do have some desire to win the battle and prove I’m right. And, inevitably, one of the responders starts engaging in condescending personal attacks (“you’re naive.” “You live in a fantasy world.” “you don’t know all the facts” etc.) I do wonder at those moments whether those personal insults are coming from a place of insecurity. They certainly come from defensiveness. Usually, though, I take the insults as a sign that I am winning the flame war. 🙂

    Meanwhile,, the dude’s voice does sound like McCartney. 🙂

  2. pegclifton says:

    Interesting discussion; I don’t think I want to prove that I am right because I fear I may be wrong. I think it’s because I’m passionate about it and want to make that point come across. I don’t want to make others feel the same as I feel; just want them to understand why I feel that way. Doug just added that he wants them to be “convinced that he’s right” 🙂

  3. Andrea Katz says:

    I like the topic. I get so worked up in these discussions that I try not to engage in them. I admire those that can just keep calmly explaining their view point and support it with references and facts. Before too long, on the other hand, I will just compare them to the Third Reich and be done with it. It’s never pretty.

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