Song of the Day #5,725: ‘Crying, Laughing, Loving, Lying’ – Labi Siffre

Concluding my countdown of last year’s best films…

Best Films of 2023
#1. The Holdovers

This year’s top ten was one of the hardest I’ve had to compile. Not only did I have a dozen or so films vying for the final list, but I had a hell of a time figuring out what should go where. I considered at least five different titles for the top spot, never feeling quite right about any of them.

Then I rewatched Alexander Payne’s The Holdovers and realized I had my answer. I loved it already, but the second time through it was funnier, sadder, warmer, and wiser. I realized that not only is it my favorite movie of last year, but it’s a movie I’ll be seeking out repeatedly for years to come.

The Holdovers finds Barton Acacdemy professor Paul Hunham (Paul Giamatti) babysitting a group of students whose parents opted to leave them at the New England boarding school over Christmas break. He is joined by Mary Lamb, the school’s cafeteria manager and a grieving mother whose son was recently killed in Vietnam (played by Da’Vine Joy Randolph, soon to be an Oscar winner for this role).

One student, misunderstood troublemaker Angus Tully (Dominic Sessa), ends up as the sole remaining “holdover,” and the trio bond over their shared loneliness.

Payne and screenwriter David Hemingson spin this simple premise into one of the most charming, hilarious, and ultimately life-affirming movies I’ve seen in a long time. And this trio of wonderful actors form the year’s most winning ensemble.

I know a film has worked on me when I find myself wondering about the characters’ fates after the closing credits. I would line up immediately to watch a movie about Angus’ next ten years. I want to see a movie about Paul working on the monograph he always wanted to write. And a movie about Mary becoming an aunt to her sister’s new baby.

Hell, I would watch a movie about the ski trip that pulls the other holdovers away from Barton for a week. I am on board for a Holdovers Cinematic Universe — that’s how real these characters feel to me.

Much of the credit goes to Hemingson’s brilliant script and the actors’ flawless work, but Payne deserves his share for fully embracing The Holdovers‘ 70s setting by shooting and editing the film as if it came out during that great decade for cinema. Faux-70s title cards open the movie, the music selections are spot-on, and even the framing and color grading call to mind a lost Hal Ashby film.

All of this great craft combines to make The Holdovers the rare film that just feels comfortable to live within. It’s so funny and so sad, but more than anything so lovingly human.

I can’t recommend it highly enough, and — unlike almost everything else on this list — I am 100% confident anyone reading this post will like it.

That wraps up the 2023 film year… now on to 2024! But first, I’d love to see your own 2023 top ten lists in the comments.

[Verse 1]
Crying
Crying never did nobody no good no how
That’s why I don’t cry
That’s why I don’t cry

[Verse 2]
Laughing
Laughing sometimes does somebody some good somehow
That’s why I, I’m laughing now
That’s why I, I’m laughing now

[Verse 3]
Loving
Loving never did me no good no how, no how
That’s why I can’t love you now
That’s why I can’t love you now

[Verse 4]
Lying
Lying never did nobody no good no how, no how
So why am I lying now?
So why am I lying now?
So why am I lying now?

4 thoughts on “Song of the Day #5,725: ‘Crying, Laughing, Loving, Lying’ – Labi Siffre

  1. Dana Gallup says:

    I’m a bit surprised that the Holdovers took the top spot on your list as it doesn’t have your cinematic kryptonite like Margaret, a favorite director like Asteroid City or Killers of the Flower Moon or the originality/artsiness of Poor Things. That said, you’ll get no quibbling from me on this one as I too thought the Holdovers was one of the best movies of 2023. While I am not likely to put together a top 10 list, Holdovers would likely be on it, probably in the top 5.

  2. Amy says:

    This is a lovely and unpretentious film that was released in the year of Barbenheimer, which made it all the more welcome. To your “comfortable” observation, I would add that it’s a film you’d stumble across on HBO one Saturday afternoon and easily slip into.

    It shares as much DNA with The Great Santini, Terms of Endearment, and Enough Said as it does with the 70s films Payne was more directly emulating. It’s for films such as these that frequent commenter Peg, especially, goes to the movies.

    My own top 10 is still evolving though I think I’ve now seen most of the films that would be in contention. I don’t see Asteroid City or Zone of Interest taking a spot, but who knows! Unlike you, I’ve seen the majority of this year’s films just once, so I am curious how much a second viewing would deepen – or shift – my initial reaction.

  3. Peg says:

    I wanted to see this movie for the longest time especially after you said It will be your favorite movie this year. And you were right. I loved this movie and it tops my ten list even if I went with another and actor for the contest. Trying to win this year’s award 😊 Amy is so right this is the kind of movie that is my Kryptonite ❤️

  4. Andrea Katz says:

    After reading this review I knew I had to rent this movie. I think this may be one of my favorite movies ever. I laughed, cried and increased my vocabulary. 100% delightful!

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